Advice for my 20 Year-Old Self

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I used to be planning on doing an epic Thanksgiving recap at this time, however I believed I’d dig slightly deeper and do some reflection. FFF is 5 years previous and SO MUCH HAS CHANGED since I began this little child. 20 yr previous Lee was a junior in school, in the course of recovering from an consuming dysfunction, anxious, meticulous, inflexible, and self-conscious. She cared approach an excessive amount of about what different folks thought and her requirements for herself had been ridiculously excessive. Nicely associates, I’ve carried out a number of soul-searching over the previous 5 years. I stated sayonara to my secure company job and hiyah to working for myself full-time. I’ve been touring my butt off. I obtained my first significantly boyfriend after which went by means of my first breakup. I began 2 different web sites. And most importantly- I began dwelling deliberately for myself and discovering happiness in each single that I do.

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I’m an previous soul and at all times have been, however currently I really feel like I’m younger(er) once more. Whereas I don’t have any regrets on my early twenties, there are just a few items of recommendation that I want I’d have had throughout that point…

Should you’re not bizarre, you’re boring.

So…I’m bizarre. And I feel it’s superior. Should you comply with me on Snapchat (fitfoodiefinds), you already know I’m bizarre. Should you solely learn my weblog, you probably suppose I’m semi-weird attributable to my ball obsession. However in all seriousness, I’m bizarre. I make bizarre faces, I say random issues, I sing on a regular basis (even after I’m not within the bathe), I snort at myself lots…the record goes on. The one factor I’ve realized in my 25 years of life is to only embrace the weirdness as a result of regular is boring. Simply because everybody else is doing it, doesn’t imply it’s best to too. Considered one of my favourite qualities in different folks shouldn’t be understanding what they’ll say subsequent, particularly if it’s slightly bizarre, witty, or sarcastic.

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Your physique is a wonderland so don’t deal with it like shit.

This piece of recommendation is attention-grabbing. Most 20 year-olds eat like crap, don’t exercise, and deal with their our bodies horribly. After I was 20, I didn’t eat sufficient, labored out wayyyy an excessive amount of, and created my very own UNHEALTHY definition of what the phrase wholesome actually means. I handled my physique simply as poorly as a binge consuming school child, however on the other finish of the spectrum. No bueno. Wanting again, I’d really encourage my youthful self to get wasted just a few instances after which eat pizza and be okay with it. I’m positively not suggesting I put that in my every day routine, however life ought to be all about moderation, not in regards to the extremes!

It doesn’t matter how a lot cash you make, it issues how pleased you’re.

This goes out to all 20 one thing yr olds. Happiness trumps $$. Why don’t you see for your self? My pleased is totally different than yours, so exit and work out what meaning to you. Stroll the lake day-after-day, bake some cookies, crochet a shawl. #youdoyou

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Our on-line world is cool and all, however don’t neglect about fostering relationships in actual life.

I’m referring to all issues expertise on this one. Expertise is a beast and social media by no means turns off, however taking instances every day to show it the EFF off is important. It’s essential to be intentional with the time you spend in REAL LIFE, head to head along with your family and friends.

Be spontaneous.

Should you knew me 5 years in the past, I used to be the other of spontaneous. Each day that I lived had a plan and boyyyy did I stick with that plan. I deliberate my day round what I ate and what my exercise was. Over the previous 5 years, I’ve challenged myself each single day so as to add slightly spontaneity to my life. Actually, some issues in life you simply can’t plan and the extra prepared you’re to only waft, the better it’s going to be. Spontaneity is an attractive factor.

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Do what you’re actually good at and be resourceful relating to stuff you suck at.

You may suppose that simply doing every thing your self is essentially the most environment friendly technique to do one thing, however when it comes all the way down to it, a group is healthier than one. Be taught to work with different folks. Be a frontrunner. Construct a group. Let somebody do the stuff you’re not good at and DESTROY what you’re good at. I promise, it would repay.

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You don’t should have a 6-pack to be lovely.

If I may go on a 20 minute stroll with my 20 yr previous self, this might be the subject of dialog. As girls I really feel like we’re pressured to look a sure approach. Cute face, lil waist, with an enormous behind. Actually- when you have a 6-pack you probably don’t have any junk within the trunk. And I’m simply saying, I like my junk within the trunk. Magnificence most positively shouldn’t be about PERFECTION. It’s taking what you’ve obtained and loving each little bit of it. The extra you like your self, the extra lovely you’re.

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Have an effing drink.

Scorching rattling…have 2!

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On the finish of the day, consuming ought to be about being social and letting unfastened slightly bit. It’s going to be okay. You’re not going to achieve 10 kilos, die, or not get up the following morning. Chill the eff out and drink the rattling margarita.

Heartbreak sucks, however IT GETS BETTER.

It’s loopy how a lot I’ve grown up on FFF. After I began the weblog, I had by no means had an actual boyfriend. I “dated,” however didn’t name anybody my boyfriend till I used to be 21. Heartbreak will make you stronger. It should make you like your self. It should make you outline what significant-other means. It provides you with perspective on what you need. Heartbreak sucks lots, but it surely will get higher! Simply be sure you encompass your self with all issues optimistic and channel that new discovered vitality to determining what makes you cheerful.

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Be okay with having 5 REALLY nice associates as an alternative of 100 simply okay associates.

Intention. Be intentional with the folks you spend your time with. This most probably means having fewer vital folks in your life, however spending rather more high quality time with them. Reputation is only a phrase. In case your mother and sister are your greatest associates, you’re doing one thing proper. Be loyal. Be true to your self and associates. Snicker lots. Be bizarre. And solely spend time with the folks that give what you give.

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Problem your self. Do issues that make you are feeling uncomfortable as a result of it WILL repay.

I not too long ago did a chat on the Carlson Faculty of Administration on the College of Minnesota and that is what I ended with. Success doesn’t come from consolation, it comes from the surface. Get uncomfortable and get used to it. Life is BORING while you’re not challenged. Crave extra, do extra, and simply see what occurs.

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Yah need it? Go get it.

You don’t get what you don’t ask for and that’s the TRUTH. After I stop my full time job 2.5 years in the past, it was an enormous threat. I wasn’t but matching my company wage with revenue from FFF, however I knew precisely what I wished. I wished to work for myself and switch my ardour right into a profession. Nobody may inform or present me how to do that, so i knew I needed to take a leap of religion and determine it out. You don’t get what you don’t ask or attempt for. In order for you one thing, go and get it. If you wish to go to Spain. Go. If you wish to learn to play the guitar. Do it. Cease speaking and begin doing.

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Should you don’t know, you already know.

Somebody shared this lovely piece of recommendation to me whereas I used to be going by means of the breakup. You understand the saying “if you already know you already know?” I feel that should you don’t know, you already know, as properly. Hearken to your intestine, it’s often correct in what determination it’s best to make even should you don’t know the fitting reply.

Glad December 🙂